We need real solutions!

Submitted to Dorchester Banner
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Letter to the editor:

Some children are disciplined at home and the parents don’t have a problem disciplining them at school. Some are abused, some have other forms of trauma or untreated/mistreated mental health disorder. It’s not all on the parents and the children.

Children deserve the same respect that adults do period. Don’t talk crazy to people’s children and expect them to respect you, don’t treat them differently than other students and expect them to respect you.
There are way too many issues that are not being addressed and it’s not fair to anyone. It’s easy to label children bad, but when you haven’t eaten, gotten sleep, had to move again, been abused, parent died or went to jail, etc., it’s unrealistic to expect them to be emotionally regulated.

Behavioral health issues are real and we need quality and ethical therapists helping these students, families, and staff. Suspending them and sending them back into the danger zone does nothing, keeping them in class disrupting the learning environment does nothing.

So at some point, we have to come up with real solutions, working in the best interest of educating our children so they can compete in the real world, creating a safe and welcoming learning environment for children, teachers and staff.

They only way that will be done is if the adults hold all adults accountable for the state of our schools. We are 24th or 23rd out of 24 again. The school report card came out and we are not competing with anyone for failing these children.

The definition of discipline is to teach. The adults need to learn to do something different in order for change to come.

I do not condone or support violence in the classrooms, hallways, cafeteria, or buses. When we have a community of adults who refuse to take responsibility for the well-being of our children, that’s a problem.

It would be great if all parents were great and capable of raising their children in supportive loving homes, but we know that’s not the case for many. So where does that leave us?

Here is the reality: Parents who have zero parenting abilities, parents with addictions, undiagnosed mental illnesses, sub-par mental health treatment including substance abuse, negative personal history with the school system, domestic violence, homelessness, working two jobs, I could go on.

How do we get them to step up? How do we support them, encourage them, engage them?

Many teachers and parents don’t have the best relationships for whatever reason, so the parents won’t go to the schools. It’s sad and ridiculous at the same time. No one should be afraid to go to school, neither children nor adults.

Omeakia Jackson